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Self-evaluation
Self-evaluation is a process that is ongoing. We evaluate how we are managing
life tasks, and we evaluate whether we are doing what we should, saying what we
should, or acting the way we should. In depression, self-evaluation is generally
negative and critical. When a mistake occurs, we think, "I messed up. I'm no
good at anything. It's my fault things went wrong." When someone is
depressed,
he/she tends to take responsibility for everything that goes wrong, and tends to
give others credit for things that turn out fine. Psychologists assume that
self-evaluation, in depressed individuals, is too critical, and feeds low
self-esteem and a sense of failure.
Identification of Skill Deficits
Sometimes a depressed person may accurately identify a skill deficit. "I'm
not good at telling people what I want from them." This is usually coupled with
negative self-evaluation, "therefore, it's my fault that I didn't get what I
want." However, in depression, the person assumes that he/she cannot learn how
to do what is necessary to achieve a better outcome. The depressed person
believes that he/she cannot learn how to act differently. Accurate
identification of social skill deficits complicates depression, because it
provides a reality base for the other irrational and exaggerated negative
perceptions of the depressed person. If the skill deficit is real, then the
depressed person assumes that all of the other negative self-assessments must be
real too. Further, when depressed, a person is more likely to identify negative
characteristics of self, and less likely to see the positive. The result is a
long list of the "things I cannot do," or "tasks I'm no good at," or "mistakes
I've made." Psychologists help depressed persons identify their social skill
deficits, and also help them develop a plan to improve those skills. This part
of cognitive therapy is more behavioral, as the psychologist teaches the
depressed person how to manage their life problems better.
Evaluation of Life Experiences
When depressed, a person will focus on minor negative aspects of what was
otherwise a positive life experience. For example, after a vacation at the
beach, the depressed person will remember the one day it rained, rather than the
six days of sunshine. If anything goes wrong, the depressed person evaluates the
entire experience as a failure, or as a negative life experience. As a result,
memories are almost always negative. This is reflective of unrealistic
expectations. Nothing in life ever works out just as you want. If we expect
perfection, we will always be disappointed. Psychologists help you to develop
realistic expectations about life, and help you determine what you need versus
what you want. After all, most of the things that don't work out are little
things. And even when important problems develop, we can either resolve the
problem, or regroup, recover, and start again, with hope for a better future. In
depression, the hope is missing.
Self-talk
Self-talk is a way of describing all the things we say to ourselves all day long
as we confront obstacles, make decisions, and resolve problems. Self-talk is not
"talking to yourself" in a literal sense, although it sometimes does involve
talking out loud (depending on the person). There is a myth, that when you talk
to yourself, it is a sign of "craziness" or mental illness. That idea stems from
the "voices" or auditory hallucinations experienced in severe forms of mental
illness, such as schizophrenia. When a person hears voices, he/she thinks it is
someone else talking to them. The self-talk we are describing here is not like
that at all. We all engage in self-talk. Usually, it is part of our thinking
process, or what we call "stream of consciousness." As we are presented with
problems, or decisions, we might think, "Okay, how do I handle this?' or "This
looks like it is difficult, I better ask for help." or "I know how to fix this!"
Self-talk is not bad, or wrong, or a sign of psychological problems. It is
normal. But, negative self-talk prevents us from solving problems, and can
contribute to a variety of psychological problems, including depression. When
faced with a problem, if our self-talk is negative, it can immobilize us. "I
can't do this, I'm just going to foul it up again" or "I'll probably get fired
after they see how incompetent I am." Psychologists help depressed individuals
identify negative self-talk, and also teach them how to challenge these negative
statements, and how to replace them with positive self-talk.
Automatic thoughts
Automatic thoughts are repetitive, automatic self-statements that we always say
to ourselves in certain situations. They can be positive or negative.
Psychological problems develop when our automatic thoughts are consistently
negative. They are automatic, because they are not the result of an analysis of
the problem, they are a "knee-jerk" reaction to specific situations. For
example, in social situations, do you always presume the other person dislikes
you, or thinks you are stupid? When automatic thoughts control our emotional
response to people, problems, and events, we ignore evidence that contradicts
the automatic thought. If we cannot ignore it, we explain the evidence in terms
of the automatic thought.
For example, if we talk to someone and they smile, they are really laughing
at us, rather than being pleased to see us. The automatic thoughts create an
expectancy of something negative. Since many things in life are vague, and can
be interpreted in many ways, we learn how to negatively evaluate the world, so
it agrees with our negative automatic thoughts. Psychologists help you to
identify your negative automatic thoughts, and how to develop positive
challenges to those negative ideas. s.
Irrational Ideas and Beliefs
Albert Ellis first presented the idea that
irrational beliefs are at the core of most psychological problems. We could also
call these beliefs unrealistic, incorrect, or maladaptive. Psychologists have
also suggested that these ideas are irrational because they are not logical, or
are based on false assumptions. Some examples of irrational beliefs:
I cannot be happy unless everyone likes me.
If I do what is expected of me,
my life will be wonderful.
Bad things don't happen to good people.
Good things
don't happen to bad people.
In the end, bad people will always get punished.
If
I am intelligent (or work hard), I will be successful.
What makes these ideas irrational, or maladaptive, is the belief that they
are always correct. Sure, working hard will increase your chances for success,
but success is not guaranteed. But, there are times when we do everything right,
and we still don't get what we want. For some people, this leads to the
conclusion that they are lazy, no good, incompetent, or weak. The result is a
loss of self-esteem, and sometimes, depression. Psychologists help you to
identify your irrational ideas, and also how to evaluate which ideas are
irrational and which are not. Finally, the ideas need to be changed to reflect
the real world.
Overgeneralizing or Catastrophizing
Catastrophizing is a negative
overgeneralization. It is "making a mountain out of a mole hill!" For example:
- One person at work does not like you, and tells you, so you know it's not
mistaken judgment. You then assume no one at work likes you, or you assume that
you must be a terrible person if he/she does not like you.
- You make a small
mistake on a project, and assume that you will be fired when the boss finds out.
- You try your hand at a new hobby, and it does not turn out well. You conclude,
"I'm no good at anything."
We all make mistakes. If you overgeneralize one, or
even a few mistakes, to the conclusion that you are bad, incompetent, or
useless, you might become depressed. Psychologists help you identify and change
negative overgeneralizations.
Cognitive Distortions
Cognitive distortions are another way of describing the
irrational ideas, overgeneralizing of simple mistakes, or developing false
assumptions about what other people think about us, or expect from us. We are
distorting reality by the way we are evaluating a situation. The concept of
cognitive distortion highlights the importance of perceptions, assumptions and
judgments in coping with the world. Psychologists help us determine what
evaluations are distortions by providing objective feedback about our
evaluations of the world, and by teaching us how to change the way we are
perceiving problems.
Pessimistic Thinking
Pessimistic thinking does not cause depression, but it
appears to be easier to become depressed if you tend to view the world with
considerable pessimism. After all, pessimism is a tendency to think that things
won't work out as you wish, that you won't get what you want. Pessimism feeds
the negative cognitive distortions and self-talk. On the other hand, optimism
appears to create some protection from depression.
Hopelessness is a central feature of depression, along with helplessness. If
you view your world as bad, filled with problems, and don't think you can do
anything about the problems, you will feel helpless. If you don't believe your
life will improve, if you think the future is bleak, then you will begin to feel
hopeless. Pessimism encourages these negative assessments of your life. Optimism
prevents you from reaching those conclusions. In fact, psychologists have
researched ways to learn how to be more optimistic, as a way of fighting
depression.
Summary of Cognitive Psychotherapy Approach
First, remember that we cannot present cognitive psychotherapy in one web
page, or in a few paragraphs. But, the essence of cognitive therapy is the
assumption that irrational thoughts and beliefs, overgeneralization of negative
events, a pessimistic outlook on life, a tendency to focus on problems and
failures, and negative self assessment, as well as other cognitive distortions,
promote the development of psychological problems, especially depression.
Psychologists use cognitive therapy to help you identify and understand how
these cognitive distortions affect your life. Cognitive therapy helps you to
change, so that these issues will not rule your life. If you are feeling
overburdened, that life is not working for you, and you don't know what to do
next, talk to someone who can help, consult a psychologist.
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